Perhaps you think to yourself…

"Am I fooling myself about being a good caregiver? Why did I ever think I can do this?!"

"This job is too much for me, and I am all alone."

"There is no one else--can't possibly be anyone else going through the hell and fatigue I am experiencing."

"Where are all of those people who said, 'call me when you need me'"?

First, stop thinking this way.  You are not the only one who has gone through the ups and downs of being an exceptional caregiver or even a half way good caregiver. 

You do not have to go at it alone.  There is help.  Sadly, you are not the first caregiver to feel this way but with a system of proper support and guidance--there will be no need for you to continue to dwell in a pool of dismay.

Listen, I know how you feel, what you are thinking, and why you feel and think the way you do.  I know because I have done this for over 30 years. 

It is not easy and I experienced moments of defeat, valor, fatigue, loneliness, and a host of other stuff while at the same time working full-time outside the home, managing a home, taking care of children--an ailing mother and sickly sister, and achieving two degrees (Masters, EdD).  Talk about a race for a safe haven.

How in the world did I do this, apart from grace and mercy? 

I developed a system to guide me through. This system helped me to stay above water during the second caregiver cycle with my ailing sister. It is practical and convenient. 

Better yet, when using the advice laid out in my guide I did not crack under pressure because I had strategies to help me beyond my breaking points.  While there is no cure, all these are best practices for anyone wanting to be a quality caregiver while taking care of the most important tool in the business--YOU. 

Failure to take care of self is a well laid out plan to crash and burn, as laid out in Module 3 of this guide.  

If I did not believe that there is hope of being an effective caregiver and successfully managing your life, too, I would not have shared this system. 

After others witnessed what I did and maintained a career, and a small social life outside of caregiving they urged me to share the love. I am and have. 

Now, if you feel that you can handle everything on your own and are willing to continue to whine when stuff happens because you are tired, stressed, and simply do not know how to handle difficult others (be that medical professionals, friends, family, foes), I urge you to not take advantage of this opportunity.

If you, however, are the one who is tired of stumping your toes and being frustrated because you need to handle financial matters or secure resources but lack the time and ability to do so--then continue to look at this system.

Being a caregiver was once thought to primarily include females and focused only on the aging as those needing these services. So not true.

More men are apt to become a caregiver than women. The young and middle-aged are falling into the caregiver role and/or becoming the one in need of a caregiver.

Whatever the plight, you need help and help is at your fingertips.  

Nothing is more debilitating than to need help or services and not know how or have the time to acquire them.

That is why I wanted to help others!  I am tired of watching people fall through the cracks, and seeing good people needlessly burn out in the role of caregiver because they are blindly "driving the cart before the horse."

There is only one end to this nightmare and it is not good for caregiver or the care recipient. Time is of the essence, and failure to have a functional road map only further promotes chaos.

Here's exactly what you'll learn in each chapter...

You'll understand the art and science of caregiving, how to gauge your readiness, and how to breakdown mindset barriers that block good decision-making. After this module, you'll:

• Have a clear sense of the caregiver role and the impact this relationship will have on all stakeholders

• Be armed to have a meaningful conversation with your loved one (if possible) to discuss his/her desire for care

• Develop a list of key stakeholders who are essential to sustained caregiving--you'll be shocked how well this goes!

• Understand how to start honest dialogues about your feelings, desires, concerns, and questions with stakeholders

• Understand the importance of active listening and note taking skills when conversing with key stakeholders

• Respond better to stakeholders' verbal and non-verbal cues

• Make clear, logical decisions about becoming an in-home caregiver, knowing that the decision you make is best for you, the loved one, and all stakeholders

• Be equipped to live with the consequences of your decision

Next we'll lay the foundation. In order to build an effective foundation as a caregiver, you need to know where the tools are. In this module, you'll:

• Learn about your resources, strengths, and weaknesses

• Master communication techniques to share your thoughts, fears, and concerns with your loved one (when possible)

• Understand how to approach medical experts for advice and resources you need to care of your loved one

• Unlock templates for essential lists and documents to preserve crucial information about the loved one (i.e., vital sign logs, medication lists, journals, etc.)

• Gain access to, and understand, our essential docs library with DNR orders, Living Wills, Power of Attorney, and more to help you conduct business transactions or make decisions with your loved one without getting stuck in legal nonsense

• Discover tips and tricks about how and where to keep your ledgers, who gets access to each, and what to do when you're not available, because let's get real, every now and then, you might be away but someone needs to access a document

You can only do so much alone. You're going to need help, and this module shows you how to go get it. After this module, you'll:

• Brainstorm a working support list of diverse--not the diversity you're thinking--supporters

• Build an honest laundry list of the help you need to survive and be an effective caregiver

• Leverage simple communication techniques to have meaningful discussions with potential supporters and ask for help even if that's hard for you

• Create a task chart to help you make respectful decisions when managing and delegating tasks to your network

• Unlock word for words scripts to help handle difficult support members and share messages of concern without causing fireworks

• Leverage our resource bank of personality test guides to help you understand your support network's unique blend of personality traits, remembering that managing people is 10% them and 90% you (IF you're doing it right)

To deliver on your promise of quality care, you'll need to master  budgeting and managing your loved one's assets, accounts, and monthly expenses. In this module, you'll:

• Gain unlimited access to our essential docs library with templates for budgeting expenses and word for word scripts to speak with lawyers, CPAs, vendors, banks, and more

• Master the core elements of planning for the financial well-being of your loved one and yourself

• Leverage the power of effective organization to manage monthly and yearly expenses in a detailed manner so that you can handle those (sometimes) pesky government bodies like the Social Security Administration and the IRS

• Learn how to develop a running list of all assets and insurances so that they are readily available when needed

• Break through money mindset barriers to have effective conversations about money, first with yourself, and then with your loved one and key stakeholders

As hard as things get, nothing is worse for you, your loved one, or the network of supporters that have come to trust your leadership than a burned out caregiver. In this module, you'll:

• Learn the importance of your role in the caregiving process and the reasons why taking care of yourself are just as important as taking care of your loved one--here's something you've heard, but might not truly believe: IT'S NOT SELFISH 

• Discover tips and tricks--ones I learned the hard way--about how to take care of yourself and relax, regardless of your discretionary income

• Understand how to network within your support system to get valuable R&R time to recuperate and rev up for the next adventure

• Master simple, but effective, psychological tools to avoid feeling guilty and instead say "Heck yeah!" to help and opportunitites for R&R when someone offers it, even if you weren't expecting it

Transitions don't always involve death. Some transitions require a need to evaluate out of home placement for your loved one. When any transition happens, the caregiving process takes a wallop and you need to know how to handle this. In this module, you'll:

• Understand the stages of separation or grief

• Master how to effectively plan for aftercare arrangements (funeral expenses, burial fees, or the costs of transition to out of home care, etc.)

• Learn how to work with an attorney or executor to distribute your loved one's assets--you HAVE to plan for this in advance or you're in for a doozy of a hard time

• Unlock tips and tricks to help you understand and settle disputes with family, friends, and foes

• Discover methods to move forward with your life with continued purpose, joy, and energy

Ready to conquer your role as a caretaker?

You don't have to do this alone! We're here to help you navigate your role as a caregiver. Heads up--the journey ain't easy, but nothing worth it ever is.

Our system will add structure where there is chaos, word for word scripts when you need to talk but don't know what to say, checklists so you can cut through the noise and focus on what's important, and more.